The conviction struck me hard as I was listening to a previously recorded Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast about Praying for Your Sons. As Brooke McGlothlin shared about her boys, who are ALL BOY, she made a comment that got my attention. At some point she realized how important it was to capture her boys’ hearts and not worry so much with their behavior.
The reason these words were so impactful is that recently I’ve lost sight of my kids’ hearts and have been focused on their outward actions. Frustration, anger, disappointment, failure…These emotions are bubbling to the surface on a regular basis as I realize my childrens’ behavior is not always within my control.
But, I have expectations of them. Some are reasonable and some are unrealistic.
I want them to choose to share with others. (every time)
I want them to speak kindly. (whenever they open their mouths)
I want them to put others first. (in all situations)
I want them to…………The list could go on and on.
As I write these words I realize these struggles are my own. I don’t always want to share. Ugly words comes out of my mouth more often than I want to admit. Over and over I’m putting my desires above others needs or wants.
But, I know it’s the Lord who transforms. It’s not because of man-induced rules that I will suddenly desire to love, speak, and serve as I should. That comes from spending time with Him. I’m so glad the Lord sees the big picture and doesn’t get caught up in my daily failures.
David, a man after God’s own heart, sinned time and time again, but he loved the Lord and was loved by the Lord. The Lord had captured his heart.
My focus needs to be on my children’s heart. Capturing their hearts and not controlling their behavior.
Controlling their behavior may produce well-behaved children, but I have a short window to capture their heart.
So today I choose their hearts, and may the Lord remind me of this as often as I need to hear it.